The narcissist is the guru at the center of a cult. Like other gurus, he demands complete obedience from his flock: his spouse, his offspring, other family members, friends, and colleagues. He feels entitled to adulation and special treatment by his followers. He punishes the wayward and the straying lambs. He enforces discipline, adherence to his teachings, and common goals. The less accomplished he is in reality â€“ the more stringent his mastery and the more pervasive the brainwashing.
The narcissist claims to be infallible, superior, talented, skillful, omnipotent, and omniscient. He often lies and confabulates to support these unfounded claims. Within his cult, he expects awe, admiration, adulation, and constant attention commensurate with his outlandish stories and assertions. He reinterprets reality to fit his fantasies. The narcissist is dangerous.
Narcissism, in the context that I have chosen means a deep sense of self-appreciation. When you KNOW just who you are, and who you’re supposed to be, when you KNOW how to look the way you need to look, when you KNOW how to carry your own ego into a room, the best way you know how, a way that is genuinely ‘you’. All this in a sense of self-appreciation expresses what I believe is true Narcissism.Contradictory as it sounds, it’s a selfless sense of self-appreciation, truly appreciating who you are, without bringing yourself into the picture.
Â Â Â Â Â Â Also, inspiration came from a prologue in Paulo Coelho’s “The Alchemist”, it reads:
Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â The Alchemist picked up a book that someone in the caravan had brought. Leafing through the pages, he found a story about Narcissus. The Alchemist knew the legend of Narcissus, a youth who daily knelt beside a lake to contemplate his own beauty. He was so fascinated by himself that, one morning, he fell into the lake and drowned. At the spot where he fell, a flower was born, which was called the narcissus.
But this was not how the author of the book ended the story. He said that when Narcissus died, the Goddesses of the Forest appeared and found the lake, which had been fresh water, transformed into a lake of salty tears.
“Why do you weep?” the Goddesses asked.
“I weep for Narcissus,” the lake replied.
“Ah, it is no surprise that you weep for Narcissus,” they said,
“for though we always pursued him in the
forest, you alone could contemplate his beauty close at hand.”
“But….. was Narcissus beautiful?” the lake asked.
“Who better than you to know that?” the Goddesses said in wonder,
“After all, it was by your banks that he knelt each day to contemplate himself!”
The lake was silent for some time. Finally it said:
“I weep for Narcissus, but I never noticed that Narcissus was beautiful. I weep because, each time he knelt beside my banks, I could see, in the depths of his eyes, my own beauty reflected.”